Ah, alright, that makes sense. It would be a bit strange to defend, to not defending for a covered hit, to defending again.
So my votes would be any statuses are selfish, defending being either compromise (take hit defended, drop afterwards) or selfish, and row being anything (selfish, selfless, or compromise all have merit). Prefer that either defend or row are selfish, though.
And no evade tanking is fair. That sounds oxymoronic and unbalanced.